my husband on being a dad
This is something my husband Christopher wrote a few months ago when we were living in Brooklyn and I was shooting Gods Behaving Badly. This photo is a paparazzi shot from around that time, when Bear was between 2-5 months old. Bear is 10 months now. I will share more current pictures soon, but I wanted to share this one since it is from around the time that Christopher wrote this, he wrote it, then I forgot to post it, so it's a little late, but I hope you enjoy it:
Wow, do I love being a father. Seeing my boy smile, play, and laugh is just the greatest thing in the world. From the moment we wake up, it is just a joy. I love hearing sounds from the other room when Bear and Alicia are hanging out. They talk to each other even though Bear is only four months old. Bear loves me, but he really loves Alicia. They have a crazy special thing. They flirt with each other like crazy.
When my head hits the pillow at night, I'm usually exhausted. I love that feeling - to be exhausted over something you love to do is one of the great feelings in life.
Our boy is a traveling man. He does not like to be still. He wants me to keep movin and see the world. When Alicia is working, he loves going with her to the hair and makeup trailer, because of all the lights, noise, mirrors, and the funny makeup artist. He is fascinated by TV when it is on, but Alicia just put the kibosh on him watching the tube.
I can't wait to start playing sports and games with him. I can't wait to teach Bear all kinds of things...but in the end, he is gonna have to beat me fair and square at whatever it is (jk). I can't wait to bore him with my stories of how daddy used to be in a band. I am going to constantly grope his mother.
I really do just love it. When I carry him around, I feel so grounded and wonderful. I love taking him places with me. Going to breakfast with my boy is the best.
Babies are the true miracle of miracles.
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I am one lucky mama! Do you have any cute daddy stories to share?
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I just joined this site and enjoy your stories and honesty! My little first born son, Micah Paul just graduated high school last night! My Mom told me "when you have children, the time just flies by so enjoy every moment" and I do savor every one of them and keep a journal to look back on. It was a bitter sweet moment and memories just flooded my soul as I watched him walk across the stage to accept his diploma. He has a full ride to FIU's Marine Biology program and is very focused on being eco-friendly! I believe his interest in this major came watching a very disturbing film of how they capture and slaughter porpoises in the process for finding the perfect act for Sea World, and other such facilities around the world. He became a vegetarian when he spent last summer with a friend of his in SC. I thought it was just a faze but now after watching "Forks over Knives" we are both "vegan"! Wow I wish I knew this 20 years ago! My best advice, keep a journal so that you can give it to your child as a gift when they marry and have their first child. If your child isn't the journal type, this will surely inspire him & his bride. You are blessed and highly favored my new friends and keep up the good work! Single Mom of four boys, Debi, Micah, Josiah, Julian Eli & Silas <><
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Amazing to hear a father share his joy and love for his child! Congratulations to you both and thank you for sharing.
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will you be making a 'baby/kids' section in the near future. you have such positive, great stuff you post i sure hope to one day see a devoted tab for that!
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thats awesome. its always great when we can find a great man and even better dad, and he will be :)
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Christopher,
From the first day I joined this site and read the book (twice now!) it was not lost on me what a crucial role you play in their success. Your support of Alicia has always been apparent, and as a new father that has really shone through more than ever. Thank you for all you do.....
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Way to go DAD. Enjoy these precious moments, because we are children for such a short time, and adults ( with all the complicated stuff that accompanys that transition ) for most of our lives. Life is precious.
Just hope you live in an area where you can still play street football and outdoorsy stuff, in the future of course. I did, with my grandkids and their friends, until they became too OLD for that sort of stuff. Now I wish I could get some neighbours away from their TV's for the same thing......unfortunately that is very unlikely.
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thanks so much for sharing that, Alicia...I appreciate it so much since I didn't have the opportunity to have children of my own...but I have baby-sat a lot of children through a baby-sitting agency and really enjoyed them...children are so spontaneous...so innocent and wide-eyed to the wonders of the world...I have not seen a love more deep and profound than the love from a parent to a child...children really do bring joy to their parents...
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What a lovely post. The "Groping his mother" statement really made me smile. My fondest most vivid memories from childhood are of my Parents dancing together in the kitchen on lazy evenings (My daddy is so darn handsy with my mom). Instead of rushing away from the table to do whatever 6 rascal girls do with their free time, my sisters and I sat over our dessert, and watched that incredible love between our parents. My father is very affectionate with all of his girls, having 6 daughters he certainly has his work cut out but while, he was sometimes embarrassing and often annoying now, all grown up, I cherish my father more than he could possibly imagine. And I bet Christopher WILL in fact let Bear win on occasion. My husband said the same thing but he usually lets our daughter win, he calls it the "giggle and kiss" forfeit (i.e. he loses, she wins, she giggles and a kiss and a tickle make the world right again). I will never forget when our daughter had to get her tonsils out at 3 years old, I'd never seen my husband so terrified, as they wheeled her little body into that operating room. That night, he sat next to her bed with crushed up popsicles, spooning it into her mouth. I sat and watched for the longest time, in that moment I realized I am the luckiest person ever!
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It so beautiful I cried... I wish my baby girl had that kind of love. I love her, she means the world to me but knowing that she will never know what a daddy is breaks my heart. He left us, he doesn't even knows her, he doesn't care. Your husband is truly amazing, you are amazing.
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So glad you shared this with us, inspiring to hear from a super wonderful and very happy Daddy, enjoying the precious moments...I have a wonderful husband who has always been around to co-parent and enjoy every moment as well...we've been parents for 20 years years now (twin daughter and a son) and have enjoyed working at home all these years, homeschooling our kids, and raising them on a vegan diet...and it has been very joyful...now our kids work in our company so we continue to enjoy the fruits of our labor...
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This is the absolute sweetest thing I've read in a while. You are one lucky mama :) enjoy your beautiful family, Alicia. I hope to have one as special one day.
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I stumbled upon your blog recently when Colleen Patrick Goudreau mentioned you in a podcast. Reading through I discovered that you gave birth to Bear the day after I gave birth to my first, Fiona! I wish I'd have known then.
Anyway, my husband has really turned out to be a wonderful father. One or both of us is always home with her and it's been like working on the world's most enjoyable project together. Neither of us considered ourselves baby people before now but you would never know it to see us playing together.
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That is really beautiful - glad you have the wonderful partner you deserve :-)
I plan on raising vegan kids... just as soon as I can find a great father like you did! :-)
I am a bit worried about my age... and that I haven't found anyone yet... but vegans have better fertility... there is a list of food for 'him' and 'her' if you scroll down this page: http://www.vegetarian.org.uk/features/display.php?pid=5
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Alicia & Dad . . . & Everyone!
You must check out these 2 beautiful books on Creative Play With Your Baby
Creative Play With Your Toddler
By Christopher Clouder & Janni Nicols
They are so lovely with beautiful photos and great little toys to make that are easy and
the text is the Creme de la Creme! From England ~ Waldorf Center there.
I give them as Baby Shower gifts ~ they are that wonderful & lovely.
They seem to inspire and guide new parents into uncharted realms of being with your
little one!
Available at all libraries ~ I had ours order a copy of both! The Downers Grove Il. library.
Enjoy!
Always maintain only a joyful mind - - Pema Chodrun
Emily
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It is a really beautiful to hear a husband and father express such love and affection for being a father. We need these men to be examples to others as men can feel pressured to leave so much of the raising of the children to the mother while they strive to make money. They may think that is what the child needs, but really it needs the love and guidance of a father and make money less of a priority. It is very sweet to see how your spouse is enjoying the daily process of being a dad.
Congrats to your family and making an example of living a vegan lifestyle is also a very rewarding endeavor. Kuddos to you both.
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Oh my gosh! This sounds just like my husband it brought tears to my eyes. We have three little boys and just had our first and last girl. He is a wonderful daddy and I am so glad there are other men who feel this way! Yay!!!
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This is absolutely, positively adorable. I'm now compelled to ask my baby's "father figure" about his feelings on being a "father." In fact, I shall email him right now. Cheers to you, to your hubby, and to Bear! :)
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Congrats to the father and both the parents. As my siter will become Mommy 'soon' too, I just recommended one of your advises (cookbook, or so)... now she's been interested and I hope she will continue following you vegan Superstar(s). Is your hubby vegan or vegetarian, maybe 'macro' yet?
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