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I need to lose weight but my husband doesn't
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by Christina Ramey
on November 15, 2009
I've been reading the weight loss recommendations in The Kind Diet, which I'd like to try, but was a bit concerned about my husband (who is quite thin and can't stand to lose a pound).
I usually cook for us both -- we are both vegan, and both very health-conscious. I know he'd be down with trying some of the "Superhero" recipes with me, but I'm worried that if I prepare these recipes, and start to lose weight, that he would too!
I think it would be impractical for us to eat separate meals -- do you think there is something extra I could prepare for him so that he maintains his weight? Or, perhaps he should just eat bigger portions?
Any ideas?
My husband and I have been following a vegan diet for about 2 years and now that I'm eating more macrobiotic-like, we are still eating the same foods although I give him bigger portions. I also make my husbands lunch as well and I'll usually give him things that I may not give myself in my lunches (raw almonds, fruit, dried fruit, almond butter sandwiches, etc).
I went on a vegan diet over 10 years ago and lost over 60 pounds. I appear very thin for a man in America. I am constantly told that I am too thin and have even been accused of being anorexic. I suggest that you actually weigh your husband and then compare his weight and height to a chart that measures body mass index BMI. It is likely that even though your husband appears very thin he is not out of the normal range. It is even possible that he could lose a few pounds and maintain a normal weight. I have never personally been underweight according to the BMI, but everyone I know assumes that I am. A man who is 5 foot 11 would have to weigh less than 130 pounds to be considered out of the normal range.
hi there,
im with you guys. my husband is super thin and cant lose weight instead he works on gaining weight...but thats the great thing about the kind diet...you can be whatever you want...the body builders in the book are on the kind diet but they are huge...and then for the ladies like you and me who want to stay trim it works for us too....so what he does...eat tempeh, seitan, nut butters, he gets to play more...eat healthy and macro but add for him more vegan fun foods. if he is out he can have the plate of nachos vegan of course or the tempeh sandwhich or the veggie burgers....where you would go for the marco plate ya know? husband i have adds bread to stuff....so for dinner we eat basically the same meal but he adds bread and sneaks more cookies when im not looking.
and lunch he usually egts out so he he gets burritos, or heavy dishes like i metioned before.
and for breakfast he ahs more like toast with nut butter....
hope this helps...
but also your man might want to workout a bit..cause thats how ya build the muscle and get stronger....
yay!!!
Thanks everyone for the advice! And -- he is within the normal range (he's 6'2" and about 175-178 lbs)...so, it isn't like he's underweight or anything. But, as he doesn't need to LOSE weight, I certainly don't want to deprive him of needed calories.
And...I'll definitely take your suggestions -- we'll try to portion our plates differently...load him up with more carbs and protein, me with more veggies. I used to fix him these calorie dense protein smoothies (with nut butters, fruit and hemp powder)....I don't know how well that falls wtihin macrobiotic guidelines, but if he starts to lose any weight I can definitely beef him up with stuff like that! (Since it is so healthy, we wanted to try to stay on the macrobiotic diet as much as we could.)
I'll let you know how it goes!
you guys are awesome!!!!
christina and your man!
Alicia -- you ROCK! I can't WAIT to dive into your recipes! :-D
Since I also would like to gain, I've decided to start an exercise regime. I was hiking and using the stationary bike so my upper body shrank down. (I only get to use my brain at work). I became uncomfortable with my body image so I'm going to do something about it. Push-ups! (yuck).
Thanks Alicia!
Justin
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