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by JR
on November 30, 2009
I'm so disappointed with myself. I was feeling really great, had lost 5lbs (I have about 65lbs to lose!) and all of a sudden I stopped losing. I set a goal last week to lose 2 lbs. I, again, lost nothing. I then actly weak and ate some non-vegan foods. Woke up this morning and felt like I had a hang-over!!! I had no energy....from just one day of butter, dairy and sugar!!! Unfortunately I didn't stop...I ate a terrible breakfast. Seriously - I feel awful and not just emotionally but physically - it is so NOT worth it!
Came here for some inspiration. I decided to write this out to try re-affirm my committment. I have wanted to lose weight for so long and tried so many things and nothing has worked. I know it isn't my natural weight - I have only had this weight for the past few years. But it is so hard to feel like your losing then get on the scale and see no change. ugh!!
Any who...if read this far, thank you!
JR, you are more than a number on a scale. Who's to say why you didn't lose this week? Hold the course, make smart choices, forgive yourself when you don't. This is not about one day, this is about a lifetime of health. Maybe you aren't getting any scale love, but do you feel better? Is your skin better than before? Are you more at peace with yourself and the world? Don't let the scale tell you how fabulous you are. Tell yourself that everyday.
And remember what Alicia says about making bad choices.... eat some whole grains, chew on some veggies, suck a plum pit. You'll be feeling better in no time!
You can do this!
I feel your pain. I lost 5 lbs the first week then nothing. I kept it up though, still not losing, but caved a little thanksgiving week. I felt awful too. Makes you really realize what that food is doing to you. I need to lost about 50 lbs, and have decided to go superhero this week. I hope that will do it. I love eating this way, but I have to figure out a way to do it while I lose the weight. I think my problem with being vegan at this point is that I'm eating way to much bread, and some processed foods. Hopefully if I get rid of those, the weight will start to come off. I also need to stop with the soy cappucinos. No more!
JR, I agree with Dawn. you have no reason to be disappointed in yourself, it is just a habit that you have developed over time.
Making weight loss your overriding goal might be something you want to reconsider. Consider finding motivation in kindness, kindness to your body, your mind, the animals and environment in which we live.
I tell my patients to put their scale in the closet and only get on it once a month.
Don't lose hope! First, I would stop measuring your success in terms of numbers on a scale. It's great to have an overall goal of losing a certain amount of weight, but don't feel like you need to lose a certain number of pounds within one week. Numbers on a scale can be quite arbitrary, and there's no use beating yourself up over one or two pounds because our weight fluctuates so much depending on time of day, etc., anyway. Be mindful of how you look and feel and the way your clothes fit -- for me, that's the best indicator. Instead of focusing on losing a certain number of pounds, make it your goal to be as healthyas you can within a given week. If you eat healthy foods and exercise, you will feel better, and the weight loss will follow. It's going to take time, though, and that's ok. Feeling guilty and beating yourself up won't make you lose the weight any faster! Think positive - you can still eat well the rest of today and the rest of this week, and pretty soon, you will have forgotten that you slipped up at all.
Also, keep in mind that it IS possible to gain weight on healthy food if you are perpetually overeating. Drink water, eat slowly, and stop eating as soon as you are full, and this should keep you from eating too much. Good luck!
JR there are several things you can do to boost your weight loss and the number 1 way, at least for me, was to avoid the scale. I portion size all of my meals and just make better choices. I try to only step on the scale once a month. Also a goal weight of 2lbs a week is not a realistic or healthy goal. You loose approximately , on a weekly bases 1lb for every 3,000 calories cut so 2lbs a week is not a healthy cut back in consumption. SOmetimes cutting back to much slows your metabolism. Just pick the weight you would like to be and then make the choices that will help you get there. I was at one point very over weight. I joined Weight Watchers and learned how to eat right. I later became a vegan and had more success in my weight loss but what I have always found was when I step on the scale and don't see the results I want I defeat myself just because of a few numbers. Commit to making better food choices, portion size, work in some exercise and avoid the scale for 30 days. If you do this you will see a chage in your weight but in the mean time remember how great you feel from all the great vegan meals!
wow - thank you all for your responses. This board is so supportive!! I have come back and re-read your responses a few times. I am sure I will continue to re-read also. Your thoughts and suggestions are very helpful and I am taking them to heart. I will start only getting on scale monthly and pay more attention to the other details, and the other suggestions as well.
I really appreciate your responses ... they feel like food for my soul.
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