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Spouses not on-board

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Syeera said #1 Dec 3, 2009 at 10:31am

The vegan diet has improved not only my health, but me general mood and disposition as well. The problem is... my husband is still like I used to be, never feeling good and slightly moody. I can't fault him for this at all, as I understand, but how do I deal with that when I feel so good and am in great spirits? I feel like my happiness is almost annoying him, or at least that he doesn't know how to handle me being so happy-go-lucky, as he is used to me the other way. Has anyone else run into this, and how did you handle it?

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Michelle L said #2 Dec 20, 2009 at 2:40pm

I have the same issue. Although, I think he's starting to come around a little. I feel completely different and I try to explain to him that he too can experience the same. He's noticed my skin and I think that if I just keep doing what I'm doing people will notice. Whether they agree or not is not my concern. It's hard living with someone who is miserable all the time. One day at a time is my approach for now.

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Lindsay Wolf said #3 Dec 20, 2009 at 6:13pm

I went vegan long before my husband did. It definitely takes time. For me, I felt like I had woken up to the world when I went vegan, but my husband was simply not in the same place on his journey. I remembering before we got married worrying about when it would come time to have kids, because I was sure I wanted to raise vegan children. How do you compromise something like that? But it was then that I realized if he could love me when I ate meat before and while I was a vegan now, I could certainly love him at the point he was at. He's been vegan for almost four months now, and we're both really happy. Patience, love, and lots of yummy vegan cooking will definitely help - mostly, being a good example can lead people to become interested in what you're doing and want to do it too. Good luck on your own personal journey! :)

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Lindsay Wolf said #4 Dec 20, 2009 at 6:13pm

I went vegan long before my husband did. It definitely takes time. For me, I felt like I had woken up to the world when I went vegan, but my husband was simply not in the same place on his journey. I remembering before we got married worrying about when it would come time to have kids, because I was sure I wanted to raise vegan children. How do you compromise something like that? But it was then that I realized if he could love me when I ate meat before and while I was a vegan now, I could certainly love him at the point he was at. He's been vegan for almost four months now, and we're both really happy. Patience, love, and lots of yummy vegan cooking will definitely help - mostly, being a good example can lead people to become interested in what you're doing and want to do it too. Good luck on your own personal journey! :)

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