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Husband Losing Too Much Weight

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Cyle Wilson said #21 Sep 25, 2011 at 7:24am

It all depends on his frame or his constitution. In males the fat stores are intertwined with the muscles, meaning that he might just be losing fat from the tissue within his muscles.


I am 6'2 and 140 lbs. I work out alot and eat a vegan diet. But I have alot of muscle and very little fat. I'm also young which might contribute.=]Its genetics as well, I inherited both of my parents already streamline frame and that, paired with a healthy vegan diet and excersize. . . The charts might say that one is underweight, but its the perportions. theres people who are within a healthy weight class who have fat instead of muscle which is not healthy.


Too many fats and oils might make him gain weight but that could lead to other problems as well. Its not unhealthy to be thin, its how he feels, does he feel week? is he tired all the time or get dizzyness when he gets up or sits down? Funky blood work? If he looks gaunt in the eyes as well.


For gaining weight ,maybe afew food swaps can be made that are just higer caloric forms? sweet potatoes instead of gourds/ squash, mangoes, coconut, pears, pineapple and dates instead of apples, melons, oranges, plums, berries. Use sweet rice ,sticky rice, andbasmati instead of the grain berries, wild rice, or oats. Uhmm. . . tahini, pecans, and brazil nuts instead of almonds, pistachios, and seeds. . . and for protiens, I think useing tempeh, seitan, fava, and kidneys and mungs are good as apposed to chickpeas, small red, adukis, black beans, and cannelinni. Just keep in mind to have variety and include all fruits veggies nuts grains and legumes, but make these the more regulars because they are mroe nutrient dense.


I hope this helps anyone else who views this page. =]

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Nick said #22 Oct 27, 2011 at 6:40pm

I think, to a point, one has to accept their body type and be happy with it. As Emma said, check BMI, but so long as someone isn't considered underweight, I wouldn't stress about being "skinny."


First, there are people who adhere to a rigorous lifestyle of counting calories, perfectly calculated to provide the nutrients they are meant to have, all to maintain a rail-thin physique because it is supposed to prolong life significantly. (I believe an article about this super-thin lifestyle was in the New Yorker, and the writer participated in it for a short time.) So perhaps even being very thin isn't going to kill anybody, but make them live longer. This doesn't sound illogical to me. If you think of your body as a machine, and the more weight you put on it, the more you give it to process, etc., the shorter the life it is going to have.


It's really just indicative that in America, we have a serious masculinity complex. Men are supposed to be big and strapping. This, in most people's minds, requires eating steak and eggs, drinking milk, and downing protein supplements in-between meals. That is certainly not a life I would want to live just to be what American society, in general, thinks I should be.


I would encourage you to be supportive and let him know YOU like the way he looks. If your husband wants to be "bigger," really question why he wants to do that. If he feels unhealthy, then that is a legitimate concern. But if he just thinks he doesn't fit in with the guys, then he needs to confront the underlying issue, and really, just say "screw it!"


If I had a dollar for every time someone told me I was looking too thin, I'd be a rich man. And then I would donate it to some animal shelters!


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Cyle Wilson said #23 Oct 29, 2011 at 6:59am

True that Nick, true that. smiley-laughing.gif

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