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Hello, I am getting married in August 2010. And i am having a few problems with the menu. People are not okay with me being Vegan and my fiancée being vegetarian. I am trying to put together a Vegetarian/Vegan buffet. I am having a hard time finding good large meals for 100 guests. My family especially are not okay with meat not being on the menu. they keep saying "If there was vegetarians at my wedding i would offer a alternative for them, so you should offer a meat option for us" I do see what they are trying to say, but i am totally against factory farms and don't want that stuff at MY wedding, nor do I wish to pay for it. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get my family off my back and good buffet ideas?
Thanks.

Remember that it's your wedding. That's totally inappropriate for people to complain about a free dinner they're getting, especially if you're the one paying for it (rather than your parents). And it's ridiculous that people can't live without meat for one meal. So I would just tune them out.

I would definitely suggest going with an italian style meal, they won't miss meat if they have pasta options and eggplants options. With your husband to be being vegetarian, does he want dairy served?/ if you had an eggplany parmesan option, that would please many people. Good luck, its your wedding, plan it how you want.

And its true..its ONE FREE MEAL...as we all know, meatless is tasty, they can experience it too!

we got married back in october, and in a way im glad i wasnt vegetarian yet at the time! planning the food was stressful enough- i have such sympathy for your situation. here'smy newlywed advice-

serve whatever makes you and your husband happy. it is not anybody else's wedding. even if someone is disappointed, which they have no right to be, this day will fade to the back of their mind before you know it. you, however, will remember this day for the rest of your life. serve something that you feel proud serving. we had an extremely small wedding. it was very important to us that all of the people there were close to us and were a real part of our lives. we had a buffet meal. we had the service at an outdoor chapel in the pine trees. we had the reception at a covered pavillion, and it rained like hell and we didnt care. we had a big campfire that night when it cleared. we were determined to have a wedding that truly reflected us, not one that met everyone else's expectations. it was the best decision we ever made. it was hard. but we wanted to funnel the thousands of dollars more we would have spent on the wedding to a fantastic honeymoon, which we did.i wouldnt do anything differently. and here's my last piece of advice. dont share everything with everyone. if i had shared our limited guest list with a bunch of people months in advance i know that would have meant months of guilt and phone calls from relatives going "well what about so and so??" same thing with the food. people found out what we were having when they got the invitation, which means its set in stone and theres no room to complain. i did my best to accomodate everyone and then just let it go. i made the mistake of telling people that were having cupcakes instead of a cake and i dealt with months of gasps and eye rolling over that decision. its sad but everyone feels like they have the right to plan your wedding!
its your day!! enjoy it!

We were going to get married in Hawaii on the beach, but his family butted in and now we're stuck staying home, But we are going to hawaii on our honeymoon!