Hi TK
Firstly, congratulations on your first successful pregnancy! I was in the exact same situation as you - every test revealed nothing except amenorrhea. The doctors kept telling me it was stress caused by my job but no-one really helped me deal with it, just tried to override my body's natural response mechanism and in the process put me under more stress. Having said that, assisted conception works for so many couples and I think it's amazing when it does; it just wasn't what I personally needed.
To answer your question, yes it was stress management that eventually helped - minimising environmental stress as much as possible (chemicals, pollutants, etc - I even switched to a crystal deodorant which I love) as well as reducing 'self inflicted' stress (punishing exercise, over-achieving, emotional pressure to become pregnant, fertility drugs). Then there were the things I couldn't control: work, family issues etc. For these I just had to learn to handle the stress in a more constructive way (yoga, meditation or a good old-fashioned night out with the girls).
Like you, I also had a 'too healthy' diet and while I didn't agree with this at the time, I do now believe that too much of anything can be a bad thing from the body's perspective as it disrupts the balance. I think I may have been eating too much soy which can impact fertility. Weight gain definitely helped and is one of the reasons my hormones levelled out again. After the pregnancy I intend to become vegan again. I think I'll do it gradually this time as I want to avoid putting stress on my body while it is dealing with nursing etc.
It was hard - I remember one spectacular crying fit when I felt total despair - but one good thing about having no identifiable cause of infertility is that it's not a final and irreversible situation. Thanks for sharing your story too and the best of luck! Nat
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