Yesterday I went to Costco with my meat-eating boyfriend and he wandered off to the candy/nut/junk food area and came back with a bag of nut-fruit-cluster snacks and he said, "There were a few that looked good, but I picked this one because it says "vegan" and "gluten-free" so you can eat it also". Now, I don't have to avoid gluten, but he knows I am trying to avoid it as much as possible, so it almost made me cry that he read the bag and picked the one that said "vegan" and "gluten-free" (and now he actually knows what gluten is). So, hang in there ladies, when you least expect it, they will do something that shows that they really are suppurtive and they are listening. They just show us in their own way, at their own pace!
I've been a vegan for about a month (so not long), and my husband is understandably a little skeptical since he loves his meat, but I've told him that this is my choice and he doesn't have to eat as I do, and he respects my choice. So I generally ask him what kind of meat he wants to eat this week, to sort of take the edge off my "hysterical veganism views" (as people somehow regard them without me even saying anything). Now, the strange thing is, he seems slightly bored with food now... and this morning he said "Well I have my lunchboxes for the next couple of days so I don't really have to cook anything" and then he looked at me as if he was curious to know if I planned to cook something that we could share. We have done that a few times so I definitely see hope. Maybe one day, perhaps a few years from now, he will say "You know honey, I don't really like this whole meat-thing either". I hope.
My husband is starting to come around. I don't think he will ever be completely vegan but he has cut out a few things. He gave up red meat, pork, and only eats chicken when we go out to eat. He tries a lot of my meals and vegan food, which is because I love it when someone else tries my food, so he does it for me. lol. He now eats morningstar veggie sausage patty's every morning with his egg whites in a wrap, and buys organic milk. So that is a good start and I am so happy about that at least. Oh and he loves vegan cheese! He is a health fanatic so he will try a lot of my healthy stuff. He got me to eat healthy to begin with, now I gave up meat 3 years ago, and recently went vegan, so I know he is proud of me. I just can't push him. He has made strides though. So for that I am Thankful.
My boyfreind (we live together) was really supportive of everything and kept getting closer and closer to being vegan so i would tell him books to read. He never read any of those books. People don't seem to liek it when you assign them homework like that or insert that they should read into a conversation. Everyone and every couple is different but the book that got him to really get it was a book he picked up on his own at the bookstore one day while he was waiting for me. It was skinny bastard, but the specific book isn't important although that one is great because it's funny. After that he finally started picking up books like the 'china study' and 'eating animals' that I had around the house. At this point he was already eating mostly vegan because of my cooking and he was starting to seek it out on his own and trying to be vegetarian. Also whenever he shows me something that he found I get genuinely excited. Becoming vegan was a choice that really empowerd me and it's best if other people feel empowered while they are on that journey too. I bet your husband felt good after picking out a vegan trail mix!
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