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is it me or is it hard being a vegetarian and your spouse eats meat?
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by khalena
on December 13, 2010
it sucks having to make two meals one with meat and one without for me!!! my hubby isnt going to give up me so im stuck making both meals. he suppose me not eating meat. i just wanted to rant that
Khalena-
The answer is a resounding, YES! Sorry that he won't consider it. Have you seen the video called "Eating"? It's by Mike Anderson? That is one of the few things I have seen that has been able to change even the most stubborn of souls. I think you can get it for like $10 at amazon. I know he sells it on his site too but I think it's like double the price. It's worth a try. If anything he maybe more understanding. :) Hope that helps. Jenna (www.theplantrx.com)
i'm battling this!!!!! my boyfriend grew up on a dairy farm, and his family eats nothing but meat!!! he gives me crazy looks about when i talk about not eating much meat. we have been dating for 3 years so he's supportive but it's hard ...i just started today to be full vegetarian, so i'm definitely a work in progress. vegetarian is hard in small town wisconsin :|
Vegetarian is extremely hard in the midwest!! ha! I just visited family up there for the holidays and definitely got a lot of funny looks!
As far as the hubby problem, I have found that when my meat-eating boyfriend and I have dinners together I can get away by cooking a completely Vegetarian meal and making any meat on the side. Usually he will even do it himself. For example I'll make bean and pepper fajitas with all the toppings and if he wants meat in his we will cook up some chicken or shrimp on the side. Same works for stir fry, italian pastas, etc. Also I have been Veg for almost a year now and the more time goes by the more he falls in love with my delicious Veg meals. He even made portobella sandwiches last time he cooked for me :) and let me tell you I was impressed! Like Lydia my man grew up on a dairy farm too and is very used to meat, butter, milk and cream in everything. He has always had digestive problems and tells me when he eats my food he feels SO much better... so maybe I am quietly turning him a bit. hehe. But, I can totally relate! Also he lost about 15 lbs. over the past few months and swears it's from my cooking. SO, try to point out the positives to your man and thank him for respecting your veggie needs...in the mean time if you have to cook up meat for a hubby or boyfriend do it on the side, completely away from the other food you are cooking, that way you can both be satisfied :) GOOD LUCK!
-L
http://lovesveggies.blogspot.com/
that's very helpful i'll definitely have to try all the meat on the side, maybe eventually he'll come away from the dark side :)
There are times when its so so hard, but ive learned to work around it. Fortunately he doesnt mind leftovers, so i cook one day for him, enough for two days, Then one day for me, enough for two days. Or, this week, i made vegan split pea soup, and cooked his ham on the side and he added it in. Its tough though not feeling like I have the support or understanding....
I only have to put up with meat cooking a couple times a week. My husband will cook up the meat he will add to our vegan dishes a couple times a week and then just add it as he wants to.
That is hard. I used to be engaged to a guy like that, before I broke it off because he actually hates animals and I couldn't deal with it, but, yeah, I know what you mean. I wouldn't make 2 different meals if I were you, but that's just me. I'd tell them I don't believe in killing animals, therefore I don't cook meat, and then if they really want meat, they could get it but not from you. That's just a personal feeling about it, though. I know it is tough when you and your partner eat very differently and you have to try and accommodate both preferences.
My husband and son are not vegan. I make my vegan meal. Then if they would like they can cook meat, egg or add dairy to the existing meal. Works fine for us.
Tracy, that's what I was thinking. Why can't these men just cook their own meat meals?
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