Hi Erica,
I love gardening and I just wanted to say that even if your soil isn't perfect (according to the books), you can still have a darn satisfying garden!
I have a few pieces of advice:
1.) Compost is your best friend. You don't have to have a fancy bin to make compost, just make a pile in an out of the way spot and throw all of your vegetable scraps, coffee grounds, tea bags, dried leaves, and yard and grass clippings in that pile. If you are embarrassed to have a banana peel sitting on top in full view of the neighbors, then keep a shovel by your compost pile and toss a bit of dirt or leaves over the top. If you keep adding things over the winter, its all the better since the freeze-thaw cycle will help the compost break down. Every year add a few shovels-full of compost from the bottom of your pile to your garden and you won't have to add slaughter house by-products like manure, blood or bonemeal, or fish emulsion to your garden.
2.) Grow what is suitable to your region. My sister lives in North Carolina and she has luck with cucurbits (squashes, zucchini, cucumber, pumpkins, melons, and gourds), tomatoes, peppers, herbs, and heat-tolerant greens like collards. Peas and lettuce are a bit more of a challenge for her since they don't like really hot summers, but you might have better luck. If you have any neighbors who garden, they can offer good suggestions.
3.) Start small. Its better to start with a very small garden (perhaps 4'x4') that you can carefully tend with watering, weeding, and compost than it is to have a larger, more intimidating garden. After your first year, you will find the confidence to expand!
4.) The germination and seedling stage are when plants are most sensitive. Buying seedlings at a nursery for your first year of gardening may be the best choice until you feel more confident.
And have fun! You CAN do it!
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