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Please someone make me feel better :(
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by Cynthia Pfeffer
on March 17, 2011
Hi everyone,
Ok here is my story... So I'm doing a 10 week internship at a nursing home. This nursing home has a parakeet, and last week I noticed that it's beak was super long - it actually curled down and touched it's chest. I felt so terrible for this little bird that I made an appointment at the vet to have the beak trimmed. The vet said if the beak kept growing the bird would not be able to eat, or it could dig into it's chest.
Well tonight my husband and I took the little bird in to the vet and right when they went to trim it's beak it died. Probably of stress or fear... I don't know :( I feel terrible. I really thought I was doing the right thing, but now I just feel guilty...
I love animals and I truly care about their quality of life. I've been crying on and off for 4 hours now.
Please someone make me feel better :(
-Cynthia
Don't feel guilty, you did a really, really nice thing for the bird. Just think of all the pain he was in and how much pain he would've been in if his beak started growing more, he would've died a slow and painful death:-( Maybe the bird had something else wrong with him that you didn't know of? I know it's so sad and I hope you feel better soon, please don't feel bad.
Thank you for the message Tanny. That was so nice of you to respond.
Cynthia, you did nothing wrong. The bird was already stressed from its living conditions I'm sure. Those kinds of birds need a lot of room and a lot of attention. The sad part about birds is that they can be really sick or stressed and no one would know because a lot happens under their plumage. It is usually not until they are pulling out their feathers or nails that anyone does anything. An overgrown beak is a huge deal and needed to get taken care of. The biggest problem here was that no one had probably ever taken that bird to the vet to begin with, thus leading to a huge amount of stress when you went to do the right thing. My boss has a Macaw and a Grey and they freak out when they have to go to the vet, the one even tore out his one talon in the back seat of the car. If you would have done nothing, he would have starved to death. It sounds like he went quickly. I'm sure what contributed most to this birds death was the living conditions that it has been in for years and the added stress was too much. Again, I know it is awful for you, but this is not your fault. If only someone else at the facility had cared about this bird as much as you and your husband, it might have had a better life.
I couldn't say it any better than catconsrv, so I won't try. Just know that you did the right thing by taking the little guy in. You did save him, in a way. He died with someone caring more about him than anybody probably had in a very long time.
Oh you guys are so sweet :') I was still a mess this morning but I'm feeling better now. Thank you for being so kind and taking the time to respond. Your perspectives were EXACTLY what I needed to hear :)
What a sweet, kind, caring, and observant person you are!!
You defenitly did nothing wrong. You had no way of knowing that was going to happen. And, as others have already pointed out, it probably would have happened anyway in the bird's current living conditions and it would have been slower and more dreadful.
The bird sounds like it's better off. Try to think of that. You are a good person for at least caring, which no one else did, apparently.
Yes, the fact that you even feel bad sets you apart from many, MANY people. Lots of folks would think "oh well it's just a bird." I'm stunned all the time by people who shirk their responsibility to their pets. They take complete control of an animal's life and then when it's inconvenient they just give up.
Cynthia, I echo the other posters, you did something caring for the little guy and he suffered less because of you. I know I would be just as upset as you are in that situation, but you did the right thing.
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