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by Marie
on April 5, 2011
Looking for a little advice or perspective. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for six months. At what point should I begin to think about seeing someone for help? I have heard it could take most couples up to a year to conceive. My husband is 33 and I am 28. I have been off the pill for almost two years and have regular cycles (every 26 days).
Should I give this some more time? Or would it be in our best interest to make an appointment? I am not sure of what the process would entail but am hoping to conceive naturally. If anyone out there has some advice it would be appreciated. Thanks :)
I have met a couple of women who were trying for a year or so. I'd def give it some time.
Have fun. ; )
Possibly try taking a look at the book Taking Control of Your Fertility. It is designed to help you determine your time of ovulation/fertility, for both pregnancy prevention and pregnancy planning. By learning the signs your body is giving, maybe you will notice that something's off. If not, then it may be time to go to the doctor, but I would try this first.
Thank you. Trying not to hit the panic button just yet. It's funny when you expect something to happen easily and find out it's a little more complicated than you might have thought ;) I do have Taking Control of Your Fertility and that book is amazing. Thank you for brining that up. It's a good reminder for me to go back and take a closer look.
I think a lot of insurance plans won't cover intervention until you have been trying for at least a year or if you have had a certain number of miscarriages. You might want to check into that.
In my experience your doctor will tell you to wait a year. Please don't panic. Stress will only reduce your chances. Enjoy trying the old fashioned way. Trust me,...its more fun than fertility. Take a breath. You're young, and while I'm sure you want this more than anything right now, there's something to be said for enjoying these early married years just the two of you. Take care, and good luck.
Hi - keep in mind that in western medicine it is not considered infertility unless a non-sterile couple has been trying to conceive for one year. It used to be 2 years (and I honestly believe they will drop it to 6 months in the future - there are big bucks to be made in the fertility business, and it IS a business!). Get Toni Weshler's book (taking charge of your fertility) and start charting your BBT and noting your cervical mucous etc....I work primarily with fertility in my acupuncture practice, and can not tell you the number of people I see who are diagnosed with/think they have infertility and then we just find out when they are ovulating and when they should be trying to concieve and voila! It ain't no miracle - its timing! the egg only lives for 6-12 hours, the sperm for up to 5 days, so you need to be having the sex before you ovulate so those boys are hanging around waiting (as men tend to do......). Do not rely only on the pee-stick ovulation kits - they will tell you when you have an LH surge but that is not definitive for ovulation, do the BBT - get to know your body.
And everyone is right - stress does negatively impact fertility so (easy to say!) don't get freaked out and be sure you are engaging in some sort of stress reducing activity - do some yoga, get a meditation tape etc.....
remember, if you are trying for 6 months but you are having sex at the wrong time then you really have not been trying for 6 months....maybe no months or 2 months etc....
get the weschler book - its less than 20 bucks and an amazing tool! and if you are able/it is accessible - try acupuncture. It can really help -
I second the book recommendations and the waiting a year. I know that most doctors will not "treat" you for infertility until you have been trying for at least a year...especially if you are just 28. In the meantime, educating yourself about you and your husband can do might be really empowering.
Thank you for the good advice everyone. It is so nice to have support here. I haven't told family or friends that we are trying because I have wanted to keep this to ourselves and didn't want to have to field questions or give updates. I agree with charting BBT and paying closer attention to my body and signs. It is so true Ann that if we are not timing it right, we have not really been 'trying' for very long. And thank you Kim, you are right about not stressing and enjoying early marriage years. Very true :)
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