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Best friend eats fast food in front of me...
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by Olivia Roumel
on April 11, 2011
Hey, Olivia,
It's hard sometimes, isn't it? Sometimes things affect us more than other times, especially when you were with your friend 24/7 and couldn't find much for yourself to eat. I would say, invite her over to your house to eat. Try making vegan tacos. They're delicious! I still love eating Mexican food, I just don't eat it with meat, cheese, or sour cream. Or make something else so delicious that it will knock her socks off and she won't believe that it's vegan. Either that or agree to make food an off-topic in your relationship. Agree to disagree. If she still persists in making the food thing uncomfortable for you, it might be time to part ways. True friends accept each others differences.
Peas and love! :)
Yes! It's always a good idea to make vegan stuff for people. The blog Little House of Veggies has a truly delicious vegan pinto bean recipe. It's for mashed/'refried' pintos, but I never mash mine. They are super good, and would make great tacos. Then add shredded lettuce, tomatos, avocado, or whatever you think would be good.
olivia,
i just want to commend you for being a vegetarian/vegan for the last 2-3 yrs, considering you're only 14! you sound well read, articulate, and so passionate about the cause, which is awesome. are your parents vegan as well, or did you come to this on your own? we're all glad (i think i can speak for most of us adults) that we have a teen who cares so much about the animals, planet, and everything vegan instead of the usual hanging at the mall, chasing boys, etc. - not that you can't, but you get the point! more kids should get involved and take important matters to heart --you're the future! be proud and live life well.
Its all fine for someone who has never experienced health problems or ailments caused by there diets.
Its hard to tell these people often friends ands family that one allergen take dairy for example causes you to feel so bad when they feel so good from it. Its really hard in my opinion, my adrenal fatigue caused multiple food allergies such as gluten, wheat and dairy.
Most of my family thought i was going mad because simple blood tests(which arent accurate to food sensitivities) show nothing. Gluten and wheat were my worst offenders with dairy close behind, after i gave them all up, my cystic acne and other ailments cleared up.
But i still get hassle for my dietary choices, its a shame because these people will never know how hard it is for many of us whether its personal choices from health or ethical. It all bows down to the same principle.
http://www.amlaberry.co.uk
I totally agree, powerlifer. That's how I came to this as well. I felt so awful, and nothing helped until I read The Kind Life. After a few bumps in the road, I gave up wheat and have been feeling great since. People give me a hard time about my eating habits, but I don't care because I've lost 35 lb so far and feel great! :) Let the haters hate and just spread your love and light around.
Food allergens in themselves are really only a symptom of other problems like i say the adrenal glands are heavily involved in those who have allergens and my cause of having so many was from adrenal fatigue.
At one point when i crashed big time from a stressful event even coming in contact with dust sent me to sleep. Anything with wheat and gluten would give me a panic attack/anxiety or send me to sleep etc.
I guess its a hard one that people cant be more open minded, and doctors dont help in alot of cases, they made out my digestive problems were psychological when later tests found out they werent and i had many sorrys from people then.
I guess my whole point is many cant relate to health problems until they are either faced with it or see a family member/friend go through it. Even when i wasnt vegan even eating a salad sandwich or salad in front of people id get stick. "why you eating healthy man you dont need to diet your ripped already etc etc" Erm i like to eat healthy because it makes me feel good and its good for me lol.
Anyway just know that eating healthy your doing yourself alot of good, going along way to preventing a variety of degenerative diseases. I mentioned it in another thread but the many co-workers that did laugh at my food, smoothies and other healthy foods i used to bring ended up with health problems such as diabetes etc.
http://www.amlaberry.co.uk
Yea, anyone who knows me is slowly beginning to think I'm a total nut:) Even though I try to be really discreet and not preachy about my lifestyle. Honestly? I guess I'm old enough where I really could care less what others think. I don't gorge myself on sugar, animals, or chemicals, and if they don't like it,it's just because they are jealous that they are still slaves to all of it! Sounds good eh? Of course I would only say that here!!!
This thread makes me happy. So supportive :)
Good luck little Olivia!
You are very young and it's awesome the light bulb went off for you at such a young age. I am seriously envious of that. I realized quite awhile ago that while most people were not going to get any of what I am doing, that I just have to be happy with those that get it and not badger those that don't. I have been veg for 4.5 years and vegan for 3/5. For some reason after the 3 year point this all become crystal clear to me. I don't expect much of others, it's why the SAD is such. While it seems so obvious to me that infliction of cruelty on to animals and the planets is not only unnecessary but completely foolish, I am realistic and know it will probably continue. I take happiness and being offered one or two vegan options at mainstream places. Don't worry about your friend, she's living her own life.
This is just the thread I needed right now. I know it's a little old, but it still applies every day. I've been vegan about a year and a half and MOST of the time I'm cool with other people making other food and lifestyle choices. But then there are those times that just set me off. I'm more sensitive for some reason. I get why you were upset that one time when your friend at the Wendy's burger in front of you. Most of the time I'm fine with family and my bf eating meat in front of me. But just a couple months ago I was just having a rough day, and we had a big family get together at a buffet restaurant. Being a buffet, stuff wasn't made to order....the vegan's nightmare. :( THe ONLY thing I could get to eat that was vegan was fresh fruit and steamed green beans. The buffet cost about $15! $15 for fruit and green beans??? I was livid. I actually went to the bathroom to cry b/c I was so upset. I tried looking up the restaurant's menu online beforehand, but it wasn't posted. I tried calling, but no one answered. I guess it was my mistake going there hungry. Usually I eat before I go places, but I thought, this is a nice restaurant, surely there will be stuff NOT cooked in butter or have milk added to everything. Sadly, that was not the case. And then I went off on my bf on the way home, saying I appreciate him being supportive (with his words), but it still sucks to be the only person actually NOT eating the meat, milk, etc. It's one thing to use words to support, but it's a whole other level to use actions. I think a lot of people don't get that, and sometimes I wish they would.
But I appreciated reading others' responses on here about living our life by our choices and let others live theirs. Sometimes I really struggle with this. Knowing they're making unhealthy choices....
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