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Hi ladies,
I've been off and on with the Vegan lifestyle for 2.5 years and started the Superheroe lifestyle on June 1st because of a little weight gain and feeling terrible on a daily bases. I had a surprise 40th Potluck Birthday Party for my husband July 1st weekend. Of course there was a lot of old buddies, good food and the drinks were flying. I endulged in the booze and after having a good glow on, I then endulged in the food(Cheese + Meat and everything else). Not only did I decide that I blew it because of the poor choices I made that night, I endulged all weekend because of the guilts...booooo!
So now I really regret things and I feel absolutely terrible and mad at myself because of all the hard work and effort I put forth the last month. I've decided to fast for 2 days just to really cleanse myself but not sure if even that's the right decision.
Whenever I decide to have a drink I end up binging on food that I would never do sober. Why is it that all my morals seem to fly out the window? Is it because I'm so strict with myself every other day or is it cravings? Any solutions to my problem or is it just as simple as to not have a social drink with family and friends. Why can't I have the best of both worlds? Sorry for just venting, I'm just so disappointed with myself!!
Hi Jennifer
I understand where you are coming from. I sometimes have slip ups too and feel dissapointed with myself as when I think about it I didnt really want the food - I just gave in to a craving. Try not to be too hard on yourself and remember how good you feel when you eat the right foods and how much good you are doing.
It happens! I went on a picnic with some friends yesterday and ended up eating half a can of Sour Cream & Onion Pringles. I felt noticeably crappier and decided to make up for it by eating only superhero foods today.
Don't sweat it, Jennifer.
You are being too hard on yourself, frankly. These things happen. It happens to lots of people. It's happened to me. You have to give yourself permission to not be perfect, because few people are.
The only thing that's important is that you just pick up where you left off, and keep going. It's all good. 
You also might want to consider having veggie food ready to go, for the next time you have a party. Then, perhaps you will end up binging on that after you get sauced. 
Jennifer -- Every day is a fresh start! You have a clean slate and it is up to you what you want to do with it! There. Isn't that better?
Wow, what an awesome outpouring of support! That is one of the many reasons I love this site...it really is about being Kind!!! This is not about being perfect, it is about being kind to yourself and allowing that there are going to be times when you make a choice you wish you hadn't...we are only human, afterall! Thanks to all you Kind Lifers out there for putting out such amazing energy...you guys rock!
You guys are all incredible!!!! Thank you for making me feel much better!! I truly appreciate all the words of wisdom and advise. I like Dennis's idea of having veggie food ready for the next time I get sauced lol, that just may help. For now though it's all about being kind and focused. Fewwww, that's a load off!
Hi Jenn,
I'm a very strict dietary vegan who indulges in vegan friendly beer every now and then. Some nights I have 8 of them and I do silly things like type crazy things, visit my fish aquarium, and play with the cats. I drink in my kitchen too BTW but I never think about eating when I'm drinking.
Why? Because I already ate a good dinner. Consider eating a very good dinner next time you want a drink. Surround yourself with distractions like companion animals, music, and Internet.
Everyone does different things when drinking so don't feel bad.
I notice myself actually feeling ill when i slip up. It usually takes me a few days to get back to it, but eventually it all goes back to normal! Keep on truckin'!
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