Baby Whisperer and Baby Wise were books I liked, but I didn't stick to a whole lot in them and honestly my young one didn't sleep through the night for a long long long time, because I was all about child lead nursing.
BUT, I really liked learning about what my baby could be feeling/thinking that would cause him to act certain ways, and reading both of those books helped me to understand how I could change my ways to make things easier for him. (not the other way around)
Example, one of those books (don't remember which right now) talked about a bunch of people sitting around a room with their knees crossed, and all of a sudden she walked around the room and just started flipping adults on their backs. And she was like "how does that make YOU feel" so how do you think the baby feels, just being flipped all over the place for a diaper change without any advance warning. This made so much sense when my young one started dispising diaper changes. I began to talk to him first in a calming tone saying the same thing every time. Getting him ready for the change, made it not a surprise, and made it easier on both of us.
Another one I really loved (not for new born but a few months later when I learned of these books) was something about, "how would you like it if you woke up in your bed down the street in your neighbors yard"
And then think about how the baby feels when they fall asleep cuddeled in moms arms, and wake up in a bed/bassanet etc. some where else. And that could be why baby wakes up crying instead of waking up happy.
Anyway, things like that I gathered from those books and they were very useful.
Many many of those little tidbits, made our lives much easier. I never did the CYO method, or forcing or witholding feedings to stay on a schedule or anything like that.
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