Hi Everyone! I've been Vegan for just over 3 months now and I've been having a really hard time with all the people around me. I really try not to talk about veganism cause I don't want to seem like I'm preaching, but it's so difficult not to defend myself when they start saying all this stupid comments about veganism and when they start criticizing my new life style. I feel like they are trying to make me feel like I'm the one that's wrong for choosing not to eat animals, when I know that I'm actually doing a good thing. just tonight I had to guys attacking me, which was really frustrating and difficult since I've always been a very sensitive person so it's hard not to let it get to me. I don't know what to do! Sometimes I feel like I should get new friends or maybe I'm just over reacting?
Hi Paulina. Please don't be down. I totally understand where you are coming from but it's just people don't like change and are scared of what they do not know or understand. They will come around and if they don't then all you need to know is that you are doing a wonderful thing for nature and mankind. Keep it up! :)
3 months in is still pretty new for those around you to get used to your new lifestyle. They probably all still think its a "phase". I'm in the same boat, as I have no vegan or vegetarian friends or family members. If you stick to your guns, and if they are good friends, they will gradually start to accept your choices, and even try to accommodate you at events where food is served. If it is really bothering you, why don't you just tell them that they are hurting your feelings, plain and simple. They probably just feel like they are teasing you, and if they know that they are hurting you, hopefully they will be a bit more accepting.
I seriously try not to talk much about my new lifestyle unless someone asks and feel interested in learning more, but there's this one friend he really likes to argue so he started it and then another guy back him up, so it seemed like too much for me to take at the time, which made me feel really frustrated. He ended the conversation by saying that he won the argument and that eating meat made him a better person (I still can't get over the fact he actually said that, specially when that wasn't even what we were talking about). As I said I'm pretty new to the subject and eventho I've been really trying to educate myself as much as I can there's so much information that it's hard to remember it all at once.
Thanks for the support and advice! I think next time they try to start an arguement or they bring the subject up I'm gonna ask them to respect my beliefs just like I respect theirs. I guess at the end of the day what really matters is how I feel about my decision, which to be honest is the best decision I've ever made and I feel so happy :)
I agree with you, i find it hard. It gets to me too, i hate feeling that way towards my friends. Having been Vegetarian for 9 years and I am now going Vegan, i have built up a really strong argument and knowledge of facts for animal welfare and veganism. I find that this has helped me a lot. Now my friends fear talking to me about it because they know i will win and i will always take the moral high ground. Most, are also prepared to admit that i'm right. I know it seems an odd thing to suggest but i would suggest that. Do some research into the common questions and comments you get from your friends, so that when the time comes, you have a very strong argument. Even if it's silly or thoughtless comments (i've had them all), come at them with hard facts and make them look stupid. They will soon stop. Time will also help.
Herbivore traits in humans
What happens to the animals
Holcaust parralell, Slavery Parralell
See if they will watch ''Earthlings''
The difference (or lack of it) between pets and farm animals
Use the actual words for what they are eating (it may grose them out and bring to their attention what they are eating) . i.e Cow Breast Milk - Instead of Milk. Dead Animal Flesh - Instead of meat. Mouldy Cow Breast Milk - Instead of Cheese.
I don't know if thats helped at all but i hope you can conquer this :) it will get easier i promise. Try not to loose your friends, over time i've found they understand me more and if anything i've managed to educate them. Stick with it and if they continue to make mean thoughtless comments, tell them to be more sensitive. If they continue after all that, then they unfortuanlty they are not very good friends.
Counter their points with science, being as into alternative health as i am, if we ever get into conversation i make sure i am able to back up my reasoning clearly, then the conversation dies down pretty quickly i find.
I don't know many people who live a spot on clean diet day to day so have abit of banter about their own dietary choices, i find that usually helps also lol.