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Kaetlin Rollison said #1 Jun 10, 2012 at 4:43pm

I feel like I eat really healthy, like way more than most people that I know. I don't know what is wrong with me. I read about other people losing weight by changing how they eat, and I have been changing how I eat so much. I was vegan and losing weight without being a super hero then I got pregnant and my body and mind just wreaked havoc on me. I was terrified of not eating meat from what family and friends were saying to me, so I did, although even being vegan in the beginning of pregnancy I just was packing on the pounds. i think I gained weight by breathing then. Now my baby is 18 months, I've just recently stopped breastfeeding and started being vegan again, although today I cheated. I've been eating a ton of beans and trying to do low fat, although I just can't seem to. I crave high fat foods like avocado and oils on salad etc. My appetite is big, and I seem to just want to eat all the time. I'm not good with portion control, and I'm not too good at behavior modification. I try to stick to super hero and then go back to other things, then I read another book and then I stop and then I read a different book, website, watch a different youtube, follow a new person who has the magic answer. I'm so desparate and don't know what to do. I know I'm not perfect, but way better than I used to be. you'd think Id at least be a normal size. I just want to release this weight, I'm so tired of it.

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Toni Hughart said #2 Jun 11, 2012 at 8:43am

Hi Katelin, first of all relax. Stress is not good for weight loss. I know that is easier said then done (I'm living proof) but really make a strong effort to take it slow. Try not to be so hard on yourself, everyone has slip-ups. Its fine to gather other ideas but I think you will do best by following one plan. After pregnancy your (mind and body) will never be as it was, but that is not a bad thing. If portion control is a problem then at first just work on one aspect of your plate either the protein or carb and eat as many veggies as you want. Then after you have that mastered move to the second part of your plate and still load up on the veggies. As for oils and fats, just have one or the other on the salad then slowly cut back. The weight is not going to come off as easy as it went on but the main idea I have is to take it slow and be kind to yourself.

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Kaetlin Rollison said #3 Jun 11, 2012 at 12:05pm

Hi Toni,



thank you. very good advice. i think that I make myself crazy when I start to follow a diet.

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Loren Hallett said #4 Jun 11, 2012 at 12:49pm

Time to re-group. Here are some things that worked for me. I am a vegan and have been for years but it did not help me lose weight so here is what did help:



1. Check your thyroid levels If you are eating healthy foods and never makng a dent it could be a thyroid issue, essepcially after having kids!


2. Food allergy I could not lose weight until I found out and eleminated foods I was allergic too. Check for celieac (gluten) soy, corn, egg, and nuts.


3. Knowing when you want to eat (for me its 3pm and after) and planning for it helps a lot. Plan three days of food at a time and change the plan depending on how you feel for the three days. Breakfast, lunch, dinner & two snacks is the norm but plan what time you are going to eat it. For me, I push breakfast late so I am essentailly eating lunch at three dinner at 6:30 and by 7 I am full and happy. Plan every detail from what you are going to eat, where you are going to eat it, what time...everything!


4. Add foods instead of deney yourself food. Add in a new veggie or fruit everyday, try popping your own popcorn on the stove instead of microwave..the idea is you trick yourself becuase the more new stuff you eat the less old/bad stuff you want or have room for.


5. If you can exersise. To lose weight at a decent pace you need to move for 65-75 min. a six days a week. To maintain your current weight you need 60 min of movement 6 days a week. Walking counts..and weight lifting also counts. The more muscle build the more you can eat. (Jumping rope is cheap, easy and great too!)


6. If your motivated or curious to see why you are not losing track your calories for seven days. I like loseit.com. Theres apps for iphones on it or just do it online like I do. When I feel out of control and the scale is moving and I don't know why this is always the best reality check.


7. Remeber, it takes 21 days to break a habit and make a habitso if your trying to give up a food, like sugar (which is much much more important to avoid than carbs, or fats!) commit for 21 days. You will not notice a difference in your body for 3 weeks and other won't notice for 12 weeks so keep plugging away.


8. Last thing...try focusing and eliminate the bad foods one at a time. If you are a soda drinker, even diet- the weight will be much harder to take off. Give up one bad habit for 21 days than move on the next without looking back or rewarding yourself by going backwards and treating yourself. Start with carbanated drinks, than white sugar, etc. The fats and oils should be last and oils should go before fats.


Sometimes a buddy helps too..message me anytime . I lost about 75 pounds but did losing less than one pound a week, most weeks. Just keep at it!

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powerlifer said #5 Jun 13, 2012 at 5:54am

Some great tips already given. One of the most important tips is to STOP STRESSING, all this will do is stress your adrenal glands and endocrine system in turn slowing your metabolism down further.


So chill and take a deep breath to start. High intensity exercise if you have a decent level of fitness is the most effective way to lose weight, this works in part due to its ability to stimulate resting metabolism which means you are continuing to burn calories even whilst resting.


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Laura Reissman said #6 Jun 13, 2012 at 3:14pm

Some great advice. IMHO if you only do one thing RESTRICT REFINED CARBS. I'm over 40, and find that the only way I can keep the weight off is to severly limit cereal, bread, pasta, baked goods, even cooked grains.

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Kaetlin Rollison said #7 Jun 19, 2012 at 11:47am

thanks everyone. I feel a lot better now. I will follow your advice.

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Sarah ODonnell said #8 Jun 21, 2012 at 11:42am

I would just try to be consistent! Don't try to follow people with the 'secret' to weight loss because there isn't one! The best simple advice I've heard was 'eat less, move more'. theres no magic foods that you should eat or avoid, no magic exercises either. basically just exercise and eat right!

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Veronica Nicole said #9 Jun 21, 2012 at 11:51am

Slow down, Kaetlin. It's ok. I can tell you're so sad and frustrated. But like the comments above, stress is a big contributor to weight gain--and overall unhappiness. This year has been especailly hard on me, and I realized that when I am overly stressed, I tend to eat unhealthily and splurge. But find your way again. Find happiness in your life--whether it be with your new child, through an activity you find to be fulfilling, or just simply taking time to stop and smell the roses. I am sure that once you take this step by step, following the superhero plan and learning to be happy about the life and love around you, you will be ok. Take small strides--Rome was not built in a day. You will be ok.

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Maggie Frances P. said #10 Jun 22, 2012 at 6:04pm

Kaetlin, I can so very much relate with your post. I have done so many of those things myself. The only thing that I have found that helps me to stay on track is to focus on my own "optimal nutrition", not that of others (as in what works for some other person won't necessarily work for me, and visa versa. I thrive on carbs so I don't bother going "low carb" as one example) and reduce my calories. I went from struggling to losing 10 lbs in a month or so. That's not to say I still don't have my struggles- I totally do. I get so overwhelmed and frustrated so often and really ahve to fight to stay the course. You are not alone! I wish I had better adivce for you but that's all I have to offer at the moment.

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