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My FI and I have decided to not to the unity candle or unity sand things, but I kind of want something to show the same basic concept (two become one) is a unique way. I came across a brief description of hand fasting in a magaizine, but it didn't give a whole lot of information. All it said was that the hands of the couple were wrapped in a ribbon or something and that it came from an ancient Celtic tradition possibly. Does anyone have anymore information about this tradition?

First, most Catholic churches do not allow unity ceremonies because they aren't

part of the liturgy. Second, anytime someone describes a ritual of any sort as

"overdone" it makes me side eye because it should be about the meaning behind it,

which should not be affected by how many other people have done it. If you're

willing to not do it just because it's too common for you, you probably shouldn't

do it all.

I'm not sure if Iddress is Catholic or not, since I don't think it actually says in her post, and if she wants something like a hand fasting there's no reason she has to do it exactly like the Celts did. It's your wedding, Iddress, you can have it anyway you want. Handfasting, in one tradition but not every version, was actually a marriage that only lasted a year at a time. After a year, the marriage sort of expired. Many people opted to get handfasted again to the same partner year after year on their anniversary, while others went their separate ways. I often think that this might not be such a bad tradition to bring back! Lol... If you want to see a snapshot what a Celtic handfasting looked like watch the woodland marriage scene that appears early on in Braveheart. But there are many different traditions which call themselves Handfasting and I think you should feel free to choose one you like best or make up your own. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handfasting