Please pardon the down-in-the-dumps attitude below... :)
I'm trying to budget for our wedding (way ahead of time). We want to get married July 2014. We are just starting out (he'll be 24, I'll be 23), and we are getting no financial help from our parents. I'm finishing off my BA and heading into a master's program. He's just finishing off his education and starting to work.
I hate feeling inhospitable, but I'm starting to entertain the idea of a cake and punch reception. We've cut our guest list a lot (we both have large families) and are trying for 50 guests.
In my family, just a cocktail reception would be severly looked down upon, as would not having a cash bar. I feel like there's so much pressure to entertain people and go all out! I feel like we're in an all-or-nothing situation.
All we want to do is get married. We've been together for 6 years already and don't want to wait any longer than the two years until 2014. It's important for us to just be married, rather than postponing to save up for an extravagant affair. I can't seem to get over horribly disappointing my family though...
Anyone else balancing family expectation issues and a low budget?
I think it's your choice as it's your day and you are the ones paying for it, so do what you like! I think also that when the day arrives, everyone will enjoy it, even if it's a bit different to what they expect but really .... only you guys really have to be happy. You could look at it as showing them all that you don't need a full on sit-down reception to have a lovely day. In fact, I think that sounds really nice! Best of luck!
All of the weddings I've ever been to up until the last couple of years were just punch/cake receptions. I don't know why people want to spend all the money on the big dinners / bars. It's fun and all, but it seems unnecessary unless you just have tons of extra cash.
My good friend tell me:Don't worry about what other people think and just have what I want/can afford. I don't think there is anything wrong with cake and punch and if people don't like (and they are invited) well then they don't have to come. The day is about my FI and me not about cake and punch!
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