I am new on this forum but I have been a Kind lifer all my life, so don't feel so new... I am French and I am the author of a book about vegetarianism, but in my country, I often feel misunderstood, it is very difficult.
Anyway, my first post is going to be a very sad one because yesterday, I lost my dog, he had been my friend and companion for 12 years and was the best, I just feel empty now... Since his death, I haven't slept, ate or stopped crying and now I am just afraid to be soon confronted to comments like "get over it, it was just a dog", so I come here because I need to talk, hoping that maybe I will find some friendly ears.
Thank you for listening to my story.
I am so sorry for your loss. I understand exactly how you feel as I lost my dog early last year unexpectedly; I felt like the world had ended and I could not go forward. A dog is not only a dog, a dog is your family. Try to find that inner strength and know that your dog is with you in spirit and will be the first to greet you on the other side some day. Although the sadness of the loss never completely goes away, time makes the pain easier to bare. For those who would ever make such mean comments-they must never have had the love and loyalty of a pup. Take it day by day, and I promise you it will get better, slowly but surely:).
Thank you guys... Third day already, I am eating again and still can stop crying, the worse is the loneliness that I feel, though my husband is here and is supportive, my dog was the one I turned to when we had a fight with my husband, he was always there. I will feel so lonely now...
Hi Hannah. I lost 2 cats in the last 2 years. It is very very hard I know. You think you see them or hear them and they were the light of your life. I wandered around lost for many weeks, even months really and even now I can feel very sad about it. Really good advice given to me from a friend in England, if you feel like crying , cry, just let it happen, let it out. Howvever you are feeling it is okay, it is just where you need to be now. It is a very private and personal thing, and I hate it when people want you to "get over" something. There are no rules, and if someone else feels uncomfortable about your feelings that is their problem/insecurity. Just try to be kind to yourself, it is easy to neglect yourself. Do what feels right for you. Having said all this, I know how distraught I was and many things set it off.
And really I want to just say I am so very sorry. Only you know the special things about your dog and what he meant to you. If I could I'd give you a hug. Take care. (One other thing, if you know about Ceaser ,Milan the Dog Whisperer, he lost a dear dog a few years ago and I know he had really good advice, or just thought about losing a pet on his website here: www.cesarsway.com/tips/basics/coping-with-a-dogs-death
I'am so sorry to hear about your beloved dog;my heart goes out to you
It has been 3 years since my cat died and i still think about him everyday;he was my companion for 18 wonderful years and i miss him dearly.
You will never "get over" the loss of your dog,but it does get a bit easier as time goes by.
Allow yourself to grieve and cry.
I wish you peace & love
Be kind to yourself and take care.
Hannah, sorry for your loss. All animals are special and they are members of the family. It's difficult when they pass away. In my experience, as time passes, you will remember them and the memories will be happy ones, because this companion was a part of your life. Thinking of you. Best regards, Kathleen
I'm so sorry for your loss, Hannah. Pets are family and we love them just as much as many people love their human families. Mourning is natural and is a part of the healing process. It's hard when our fur kids pass away and healing takes time. Don't rush yourself. Grieve as long as you need to. You will never "get over" the loss, but with time you'll be able to look back fondly at the happy memories you had with your dog. You gave your dog a wonderful life filled with love. Don't forget that. I'm sure your dog misses you too.
Although I'm not religious, this poem has always brought me comfort.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
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