First off let me tell you a little about myself, My name is Dante and for the last 25 years I have been know as the big jolly fun happy go lucky guy and has a huge heart as big as himself ,, and thats big ,,, weighing in at 390 at my heaviest ( 8 months ago ) I've tried everything through out my life and nothing ever worked or kept my attention. One Day I was watching Miss Oprah and there was Alicia, And being close to the same age and loving her on Clueless one of my Favorite Movies and remember her promoting it on MTV spring break I watch Oprah to see what she was up too. And for once What she was talking about started to intrigue me. and right then and there I said I was done with being so unhealthy and unfit, I love animals and never made a connection or thought where my food comes from or how its made or processed, but then it clicked and I just could not and would not be that person that has anything to do with eating another living breathing animal again. I've always been the kinda of guy that loves to make people fill good about themselves and always ready to offer a kind compliment or kind advice how to better there lives but never did I ever think to offer it to myself.
Ive Decided I needed to go beyond myself on this path and thanks to facebook I get to Share my journey how living The Kind Life has saved me!!!
Ive lost 60 lbs in 8 months I think I would have lost more but halfway through my journey i got into a fight with cheese and it won a couple of times, but I can honestly say I"ve been Meat free since I started and after the first 3 weeks I dont even miss it or think about it, 140 lbs to go.
Living the kind life to me is not only eating healthy but growing as a person that truly cares about everything around me, I am awake so to speak, I share my story with my family and friends, I try to inspire random acts of kindness to others, I try to inspire health and living a life of being happy, I try to motivate and turn the negative into positive.
With eating in such a healthy way the weight just started to fall off, my skin started to clear and glow, my hair shine and I started to feel lighter and not so weighed down, I then decided I need to kick it up a notch and joined a gym. Walking on the treadmill at first and just kinda doing some kind of movement in the pool i just added a few new things everytime I went as well as doing what I call my Dante AerobicYogaflashDance which is nothing more then some stretching and fast Dancing that fits my personality on my breaks at work and at home in my kitchen when I am preparing my food for the week, or doing chores or just in my bedroom rocking out with my Dog Minnie.
So here I am, just a normal fabulous guy thats on a roadtrip to a kind life and willing to share my story and a few ways that making eating kind easy to do, One day my goal and I will will to thank Alicia for changing my life and helping lose this extra 200 lbs that I carried for so long. I will inspire and share her story and help save lives just like she did mine and it will go on and on to the next.
I am crying as I am writing this, I have never had so much passion or believed in anything as much as this. if you want help just ask and you can join me on my Journey on the road to the kind life.
I Shared this on my Facebook and this was the Response I never Imagined......................
You've always been a special pal of mine. You've always had an admirable inner strength, although you never knew it. When we were younger, not knowing how special, not knowing that inner strength existed, is why it was easier to just make others feel good. A subconscious way of hoping that by doing would make you feel good about yourself as well (of course, we'll not discredit the fact that your compassion IS real). I've been there - my whole life as well. Its why I felt a personal connection to you. Pacifists tend to understand one another in a "silent" way, an unspoken bond if you will. As we (people like you & I) grow up, we allow ourselves to begin to understand ourselves as an individual and feel a need to pull away from identifying ourselves & our self worth by how others feel around us - because of us. There finally comes the moment when its just 'time for you' & 'to hell w/them' (for lack of better words). No more working overly hard to please others & neglecting yourself. Finally surfaced to sight is a time for change. Either you tend to yourself for once in your life, or you continue being the pacifist you've always been. I truly believe that when this time comes, its a turning point that offers no U-turns. You my friend, took the right fork in the road. Many choose to fear it & choose to remain in habits that are comfortable/safe. They end up missing their opportunity of true happiness w/themselves. All of us that choose to "do it for me", do it in our own way. I must admit, your way is quite unique (@least its a first to me lol) This "kind life" seems awesome & obviously working for you, so do not give up. Hold strong, force yourself daily, to continue believing in yourself. You know what in talking about when I say, eventually you'll have faith & confidence in yourself enough that you won't have need for the encouragement of others, though it is nice to have lol (I still struggle w/that part myself though). You'll be confident to a point that you won't craved that crazy type of acceptance by others for being "the one that makes me (them) feel better". You don't NEED their acceptance if you accept yourself. Sure its okay to be kind just as always, just as long as that kindness is equally shared w/yourself ;) You amaze me, as always. As a kid I took my low self esteem & turned it inside out, becoming bitter, even to others that had no idea why I was so 'mean' sometimes - Defense Mechanism gone wrong - You did something most of us (even those w/out a pacifist nature) can't do, you were a pro at giving the appearance of "my life is COMPLETELY perfect". It may have damaged you even more though, than my approach did me. You held EVERYTHING in, for so long! Others eventually crack under pressure, accidentally, leaking out SOMETHING of their secret for @ least one person to notice. Sometimes, being the master of disguise is the worse attribute to possess. You so deserve this new found piece/peace of happiness. I just want to say "I'm proud of you!" & thats something we never heard enough of & even if we did hear it, we never could FEEL the (self)pride that we oh so deserved. It was just a word we used on others. Now its your turn! I'm so glad you're taking it in full stride! It brings a whole new light/meaning of "focus" doesn't it? ...SELF focus! Take care of YOU babe (w/out guilt of doing so) & then, when others want to take care of you & love you, you'll notice they're doing it & most importantly... You'll accept their 'gift' w/open arms! ♥ Oh & thank you so much for thinking of me through my deal. Although it worried me (for you) because I was reminded of the "old you".
I'M PROUD OF(the new)YOU!
.... Keep on truckin pal ;) .... — with Dante Olivarez.
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