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Share Your Tips For Raising Kind Kids

Recently, I asked all you kind mamas to share your stories about vegan pregnancy and natural childbirth. For part three of my kind mama Q&A, I’m asking you to share your kind parenting tips. Feel free to answer some or all of the questions. I may select some of your answers to appear in my forthcoming book, The Kind Mama!


1.  Did you hesitate to raise your baby vegan?
2.  How do you deal with naysayers?
3.  How do you talk to your kids about being vegan?
4.  What was your breastfeeding experience like?
5.  How did breastfeeding help you bond with your baby and learn about yourself as a mom?

You can answer in the comments below, by contacting me directly (by clicking the “contact Alicia” box to the right), or you can post your answers in this forum thread.

Thank you, kind lifers!!!



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  • Crystal

    1. Did you hesitate to raise your baby vegan?
    I always dreamed i would turn vegan before i was pregnant however things didn’t turn out like that. I actually didn’t manage veganism until my child was three. I had no hestition to raise my child vegetarian but i did worry if i could give him a balance diet as a vegan. I would say even now he’s about 80% vegan but i’m working on the other 20% as he is thrieving, i’m also learning more and more about what works. My worry more down to not being overly knowledgeable on nurition.

    2. How do you deal with naysayers?
    I listen to what they have to say but i still do my own thing.
    I see the benefits so why doubt what is going well.

    3. How do you talk to your kids about being vegan?
    My child is still quite young so i started making connections between food and animals. Like with eggs that I say are little homes for baby birds (actually a birds period) and when we are in the supermarket we on rare occasions go down the meat sections. I point out the animals that have died (what they were) and how much happier they would be if we didn’t eat them. Now some people say i shouldn’t do this but i don’t want my son to think meat is normal to have sitting on the shelves. He has no issue investigating what the cat brings back so i think going bah bah to the dead sheep in a shop no different. Death is part of life, no point hiding from it. I also get books and dvds about aniamls, we talk about the live animals and whether we want to eat them. Ofcourse sometimes it back fires and he goes “yum yum” haha.

    4. What was your breastfeeding experience like?
    Because i was the first breastfeeder i ever knew it wasn’t an easy start as I didn’t know what i was doing, and the professionals though helpful weren’t on call to me all the time. So it was a lot of trial and error. Lots of breastfeeding is about just getting on with it, pushing through because it gets easier. Unless you experience what feels like glass chewing on your nipples, then don’t push through as sounds like your attachment nears work. I have loved breastfeeding, once i got past the beginner stage it was natural and normal to me. It is wonderful. I love the bond and the fact i don’t have to prepare my milk as always there with me.

    5. How did breastfeeding help you bond with your baby and learn about yourself as a mom?
    Breastfeeding helped the bond with our relationship because we were able to get such close one on one time, and the look for pure joy on my child’s face is so addictive. I learnt that breastfeeding techniques do not come naturally but once you get your head around what you are doing then its the most natural thing in the world. It taught me that i have most of what i need to raise my child in me. In the words of Heman “I have the power!” *smiles*

  • Ute

    1. Did you hesitate to raise your baby vegan?
    Yes. I still do :( My daughter is 2.5 years old now and at her creche, she gets vegetarian food. At home, for practical reasons, most of what she eats is vegan because I cooked it. And since she has started asking questions such as “What is this?” when eating, I’ve started introducing the words “vegan” and “plantbased”, “tofu”, “soy beans” and stuff like that. Quite difficult. I don’t want to work with saying “you mustn’t eat meat” but more like “we don’t eat that for several reasons”. As with almost everything concerning my daughter, I try learning by doing. But I have to make so many compromises on the way :(

    2. How do you deal with naysayers?
    I tell them that I don’t think it’s ok to eat other creatures and that, basically, I don’t want my child to eat something dead.

    3. How do you talk to your kids about being vegan? See above

    4. What was your breastfeeding experience like? Horrible. My daughter didn’t drink properly and in the hospital, no one really took the time to work with us on this issue :( I tried a milk pump (is that the correct term in English? not sure) but it took what felt like hours to produce a tiny amount of colostrum which my daughter drank up from a bottle within seconds… it had me on the verge of tears all the time and my nipples were raw and bloody and she was crying so much because she was so hungry but didn’t drink properly. Until I started bottlefeeding her.. things went much more smoothly after that decision. Today, I still feel guilty about that decision and that I didn’t give it more time and insist on help :( but the whole time I had to spend at the hospital was horrible, including the birth itself (I had an emergency C-section during the night but had initially planned a birth with midwives only and no doctors around).

    5. How did breastfeeding help you bond with your baby and learn about yourself as a mom?
    Well. Since that didn’t work out, I tried to cuddle as much as possible with my daughter when I fed her. Sometimes I wondered if the fact that I didn’t breastfeed her was the reason for her pushing me away at times (when she was ca 16 months old) but that has changed completely now. Which makes me glow everytime she hugs or kisses me or wants to cuddle or hold my hand… she is such a sweet child and I adore her.

  • Morgan Rian Pfeffer Lance

    I was a 24 year old vegetarian of 5 years, who dabbled into the idea of becoming vegan. March 2013 dairy began making sick and eggs made me feel nauseated. I thought, “what better time to become vegan?!”. A month later I found out that I was 5 weeks pregnant. My growing baby gave me the push I needed. I got a lot of criticism for eating a vegan diet while pregnant. However, my blood work was checked and my iron was never even close to low, (without supplements). As a nurse I knew how to ensure proper nutrition with a somewhat restrictive diet. People were shocked to find out that I planned to raise my daughter vegan. For me and my vegan husband, it was never an option not to. The pediatrician had called me reckless, so I searched for a new one who understood my beliefs. So far so good! My daughter Hazel Rose is almost 5 months and I just started adding whole grain organic rice cereal to breast milk twice a day. I made the decision because she is off the charts in height and weight. She always lunges toward my food and drools and smacks her lips when I eat in front of her! Plus she has 3 teeth already! I genuinely think each child is different when it comes to when they are ready to add solids, wean, and such. I just hope I have at least another year before she decides she is done nursing.
    My parents are generally supportive. However, for some reason the idea of never giving Hazel real ice cream bothers my dad! Kind of funny! I guess I will cross that bridge when I get there 😉