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Weaning Questions for Kind Mamas

A while back I asked you all about your experience with raising kind kids for the book I’m working on, The Kind Mama. I have another kind mama Q&A for you! I’d like to know more about your experience with breastfeeding and weaning. Feel free to answer some or all of the questions below. I may select some of your answers to appear in my book, The Kind Mama!

1. How did you and your child decide together that it was time to stop breastfeeding?
2. How did you know that he or she was ready to move on? Have any sweet stories about it?
3. How did you feel when that time came?
4. Do you miss that special time together?

You can answer in the comments below.

Thank you, kind lifers!!!



Photo source: Pusteblumenland, honey-bee


  • Maureen Cohn

    My daughter is 26 now but I remember weaning time very well! She was 21 months and we had passed all the milestone points they tell you are a good time to wean: stopping teething ( actually never happened); starting to walk ( just way too exciting a time!) sleeping through the night (what-evah) and so on. I realized she just was not getting anything of any value. It was a little game she played with me – back and forth, 2 or 3 seconds, then haha onto to something else. Plus I really wasn’t producing. We had planned a cabin vacation in Maine, so I thought “Perfect”. On the drive from NJ, she would sleep and I could begin saying “Not today, dear” in a sylvan setting. Perfect. Needless to say, she nursed constantly on the drive, which made me just a wee bit tense….long story short: a lot of crying from her and blathering on my part, and Dad decided to get a separate cabin, but 18 hours later, Success! We went home with a new level in our relationship, and I am so proud we lasted as long as we could, in the face of critics ( that was the 80s) and lack of acceptable social venues when out on the town.

  • Elizabeth

    My youngest (0f four) is just nineteen months old. He is pretty much weaning himself. I keep offering, but I think he is just too busy wanted to discover the world around him. He will still snuggle up close and latch on, just enough to make me think he is going to nurse, and then he is off again. I wish I shared his enthusiasm, but the truth is it makes me sad. I cherish the quiet morning, drowsy eyed little wonder snuggled close to me getting his nursies. The simple fact is that children grow very quickly. In the blink of an eye they are moving on to conquer their own dreams. The time we have as mothers cuddling and sheltering our little ones does not last forever. I think it needs to be enjoyed and savored as much as possible.

  • Amanda

    With my 8 year old daughter, she weaned around the time she turned two. I remember it was harder and harder to get her to latch and one day, about a week before she turned two she said “No, no more milkies anymore please.” I asked if we could nurse on her second birthday and that was the last time.
    Her brother is two and a half now. He was breastfed exclusively until he was fifteen months old, due to a level 4 lip tie. He loves his food now, and will eat anything, but the boy STILL nurses like he’s six months old. I’d say he nurses about 12 to 14 times a day. I keep thinking about night weaning him, but, I feel like if I do that its pushing him to completely wean, and I know he’s NOT ready for that. Just like my daughter did, I want him to decide when he is done nursing, whether that means he’s four or six or… whatever.

    • Amanda

      Just wanted to update. The two and a half year old is now four and a half. He’s still nursing, albeit WAY less. He’ll nurse MAYBE once or twice a day, and some days he won’t nurse at all. It makes me quite emotional, as I know he’s my last and when he’s done nursing… so am I. I am quite proud though. :)

  • Joanne Power

    I nursed all of my three kids. The first for a year with mom led weaning;not a great experience for either of us. My second nursed until he was four (thank you LLL and attachment parenting) and my third weaned at around 3. I should mention that I tandem nursed my second and third at the same time. Nursing an older child can be challenging in public (lots of raised eyebrows) but so helpful for easing owies, calming temper tiffs and soothing the transition of a new sibling into the family dynamic. I am so glad that my middle son has memories of our shared nursing time together. I do think it helped him to bond with his little sister when she was born-despite their rocky teen relationship now. Child-led weaning is the way to go.

  • Crystal

    My son is three and a half, I am still breastfeeding. I have had lots of raised eyebrows that I am still doing it. Even with the name baby lead weaning people assume you need to wean children as babies. That is not the case. I will go on as long as my child wants me to which should be around the time he gets his second set of teeth as that is nature’s way of weaning as the mouth changes making it harder to get milk.
    Now i can talk about him going from only breast milk to break milk and foods. He was about ten months old and was interested in what i was putting in my mouth. So i let him taste bits which were mainly fruit and veg. As time passed he slowly ate more and more but he wasn’t having food on a regularly occurance until about 16 months.
    I feel quite sad as time goes on and he needs my milk less however its a part of him growing up so hopefully the bond we have shared whilst he is so young will continue on all his life. I will miss it breastfeeding but i’ll still be able to wrap my arms around him and cuddle him endlessly.

  • Anna Etherton

    Hi there
    my daughter is now three months old and I intend to introduce puree food at 4 months. I think food can stop babies from becoming independant and babies crying can be misread if they are constantly fed all day. Plus I think it is important to still be a couple and be a wife aswell as a mummy. I’m afraid I think beyond a year is too old to be breastfeeding .I’m not saying I’m right or wrong but thats my personal opinion. Children need to be free and be a person in their own right not be latched onto mummy day and night. Bonding can be done in so many other ways not just feeding :)

  • Jules

    I wanted my daughter to wean herself, but also wanted to begin the process of having another child, so i encouraged it when i felt i was truly ready. I wanted a few months for my hormones to settle and for us to get used to the new “new”. I had some days off of work for Thanksgiving, and so i decided that week we would begin the weaning process…by that time, she was 16.5months old and was nursing before bed and throughout the night and if she wanted to during the day…although she never did. I think it was harder on me then her and she did awesome – we had two days when i cut her nursing to 5 mins and then rocked her and then we just went cold turkey instead of dragging it out….she did great — I def. missed the closeness and knowing i could take her and we could have quiet time and just enjoy each others company. Shes an amazing almost 3yr old now and we’re still very close. I’m currently nursing my 4 month old and hope we have a long nursing relationship too, as she’ll be my last –

  • Dee

    This post is a year old, but I don’t care! I just weaned my almost-two year old. He was obsessed with nursing, so it was a hard thing. But nursing was no longer a relaxing, sweet way to bond, it had become a power struggle, and he would get violent and possessive about it. So, I knew it was time. He was only nursing himself to sleep at that point anyway. I picked a time when I was going to be gone all day to start, and then I talked to him about it. He was depressed for about a week, and so was I! I had loved that time together. But I found that the most helpful thing was to replace the nursing with other things–like extra cuddle time, extra play time (really important, as toddler bond through play), and letting him read himself to sleep rather than nurse. For a while, he asked about it every day. But I told everyone he knew about how he didn’t nurse anymore, and they made a big deal of congratulating him (even his stuffed animals and cars!), and soon he was really proud of himself. I thought he’d stay mad at me forever, but now he’s back to my sweet, cuddly, kissable little man, and he sleeps all the way through the night, too. I was really proud of both of us for getting through it!